We can't get out of the bedroom so help me get out of this dress

A common theme: the Madonna or the whore. 

This dichotomy of female personalities is seen in the everyday expectations of women and their eligibility: 

"I want a lady in the street, but a freak in the bed" 

"Prude" "Slut." 

A girl can't win. There is no grey area allowed for her to balance out her sexuality. What I didn't realize was the connection within the actual history of Hollywood. Sure, we can attribute modern day movies as the cause that separates these two kinds of women, but it goes back further. It started with the need to appeal to the greater audience, the male audience, and thus moved to sex. During the 1980-90s the trend was the unsuspectingly intelligent unconventional beauty who steals the heart of the boy away from the sexy high school biatch when she's given a makeover...and consequently promotes the idea that it was her hidden PHYSICAL beauty that made her worth attention rather than the subdued phenomenal personality and brains. What exacerbates this situation is that the best friend of the girl who loved her from the beginning for who she was, never ended up being the hero, that went to the hot popular jock because values! (Although I'll give it to American Pie because they not only had a sex-pot foreign exchange student who was actually kind, as well as an honest and well-spoken horny band geek...and a mature older woman with a healthy libido so at least while everyone wanted sex, they had a personality to go with it.)  But the idea that you have to choose between being sexy or intelligent goes back to Golden Age of Hollywood- even before the 40s and 50s. Characters were given a specific passion to flesh out the personality, but it was never an even balance, it was one or the other:

You're powerful, or you're sexy.

Why is it that we pigeon-hole so many characters? Mainly female... Why is it that they can't be smart and horny? Women, like men, are animals after all. Maybe it's because there is power in these negative words. They're insults and whoever wields them can stand tall knowing they're alpha. But what if we embraced these words? Or eradicated them? What if we take the power away from these stigmas? There is nothing wrong with having casual sex with whomever you want- just be safe about it. There is nothing wrong about wanting to save sex for someone you truly care about- just don't hold too much importance on that one interaction. There is nothing wrong with following your own path and your own bodily desires- just don't judge others for being different or wanting different things.

Maybe if we admitted that every person has an individual sense of sexuality and we actually reflected this in our personifications and conversations, there would be more diverse, realistic, and inspirational characters that come forward both in Hollywood and in Washington. Women shouldn't be shamed for wanting a political career instead of a life at home, or visa versa. Women shouldn't be shamed for wanting both. There's a lot of negativity that is spread because someone, mostly the patriarchy of days past and modern misogynists, want to be in power, but what happens if we get rid of the platform they are standing on? What happens when we take away their influence by changing the way we think? Soon, that way of thought becomes the minority and consequently impotent and irrelevant.

"Human beings in a mob
What’s a mob to a king?
What’s a king to a god?
What’s a god to a non-believer?"

There is only power in something if you let there be. Words and ideas only have influence if you let them. So don't you let them...